What you should know about me: I'm not the enlightened one with all the answers. I am just like you - learning and growing each day from the amazing experiences and challenging trauma of my past. What I have done is fully invested in my healing and transformation.  This takes time and being willing to look at our past with new eyes and a desire to let go of the way we previously told our stories. Only then can we begin telling a new story for each one of our traumas, resulting in the ability to integrate our challenges and embrace the lessons we are here to learn.

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I deeply feel that starting with knowing ourselves is a must. We often create core values for our companies, yet rarely have we created these for ourselves.  How do we know if we are in alignment with a company, a partner, or a life path if we do not yet know our own selves and what we stand for?  Several years ago I did this exercise with a mentor, Jacki Carr and it is one of the best things I have ever done for myself.

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These are my personal core values:

Respect

Curiosity

Compassion

Community

Zest

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Once I created my core values it became easier to make choices in life. I knew what resonated and didn't.

A few years ago I decided to take this a bit further and I created vows for myself. I realized that in our society we have created a norm of only seeing marriage as reason to create vows, as though this is the only sanctity in our lives. As though sacredness only comes in pairs. I decided to write vows for myself.  How can I know myself if I don't know what I am committing to myself?

 

This is what I wrote:

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• I vow to love myself first.

• I vow that my happiness is my own responsibility, I create it.

• I vow that I will seek first to understand and will validate others feelings.

• I vow that I will approach life with curiosity rather than judgment. 

• I vow that I will speak with kindness and be thoughtful with my words. 

• I vow that when I am triggered I will wait until those feelings subside before discussing the issue.

• I vow that my soul connection comes first in my life. 

• I vow that I will use alcohol and plant medicine only when I determine it will be in my best and highest good. 

• I vow to be honest and to live my life in integrity. 

• I vow to love deeply, wholly and openly.

• I vow to continue my path of growth and learning. 

• I vow to live life with zest and to experience joy as much as possible.

• I vow to embrace pain and joy and dance with them both. 

• I vow to connect with source when I am in pain and to remember all of the love that I am and all of the love I have to offer. 

• I vow to embrace gratitude in the source as it is the creator of all light, all joy, all blessings and me in this form. 

• I vow to remember the Goddess that I am every day. 

• I vow to be the light. To fully see and walk through times of darkness and to choose to be the light. 

• I vow to use my power to open doors to new perspectives.

• I vow to release fear and anger. 

• I vow to humbly accept what is.

• I vow to embrace the now. 

• I vow to choose to be kind, loving, joyful and open.

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If these resonate for you, consider this a sign that we may be aligned to work together. If these values do not resonate with you, I believe this is a sign for you to continue your search to find the right teacher for you that you do resonate with. Whether we work together or not, I encourage you to create your own core values and vows to yourself. It's a path to knowing and committing to yourself more deeply. I'm on my own journey - and I don't have all the answers -but trust that you do. And I can help you uncover them with guided visualizations, listening to your own inner voice.  I also use ritual, journaling practices and self-directed readings to help you discern which path is in your highest alignment.